… well, the trouble with Buddy seems to be that he wasn’t straight forward and honest about sleeping with a waitress two or three times a week for the better part of a summer while working on Cape Cod in a hotel… hmmm, why should anyone lead with that?… when i was growing up, most young men had significant sexual experiences at a relatively early age… many young women too… why are we supposed to lead with that?… i suppose you tell someone eventually if the relationship is serious and it seems important they know… or is it only in a world where virginity is important that it matters at all?…